Ben Affleck Sets the Record Straight: What Really Happened at the Grammys

Ben Affleck Sets the Record Straight What Really Happened at the Grammys
A photo of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez at the Grammy Awards.

Ben Affleck is a well-known actor, director, and screenwriter who has been to countless awards shows in his career. However, it was his appearance at the Grammy Awards last month that really caught people's attention. He attended the ceremony with his wife Jennifer Lopez, and a photo of him looking bored during the show went viral. This led to many jokes and memes about how he would rather be at Dunkin' Donuts, a coffee chain that he is a big fan of.

Despite the jokes, Affleck says that he had a good time at the Grammys. In an interview with The Hollywood Reporter, he said, "My wife was going, and I thought, ‘Well, there’ll be good music. It might be fun.’ At movie award shows, it’s speeches and, like, sound-mixing webinars. But I thought this would be fun."

The Whisper Heard Round the World

One of the most talked-about moments of the night was when Affleck leaned in to whisper something to his wife, and she responded. Many people speculated about what they were saying to each other, and now Affleck has finally revealed the truth.

"I saw (Grammy host Trevor Noah approach) and I was like, ‘Oh, God,’" Affleck said. "They were framing us in this shot, but I didn’t know they were rolling. I leaned into her and I was like, ‘As soon they start rolling, I’m going to slide away from you and leave you sitting next to Trevor.’ She goes, ‘You better f------ not leave.’ That’s a husband-and-wife thing."

Not Exactly a Music Expert

Despite being married to a pop star, Affleck admitted that he is not exactly up to date on the latest music trends. "I mean, some of it is, I’m like, ‘All right, who is this act?’ Like, I don’t keep up. My wife does, obviously," he said. "And yeah, it is your wife’s work event."

Battling Addiction Stigma

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck attend the 65th Grammys. (Kevin Mazur / Getty Images) @Provided by Today
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck attend the 65th Grammys. (Kevin Mazur / Getty Images) @Provided by Today

Affleck has been very open about his struggles with alcohol addiction and has gone to rehab multiple times. He also addressed rumors that he was drunk at the Grammy Awards.

"I’ve gone to award shows and been drunk, a bunch. Nobody ever once said I’m drunk. (But at the Grammys) they were like, ‘He’s drunk.’ And I thought, that’s interesting," he said.

Affleck believes that comments like these only add to the stigma of addiction and can discourage people from seeking help.

"That raises a whole other thing about whether or not it’s wise to acknowledge addiction because there’s a lot of compassion, but there is still a tremendous stigma, which is often quite inhibiting," he said. "I do think it disincentivizes people from making their lives better."


In conclusion, Ben Affleck's appearance at the Grammy Awards generated a lot of buzz and speculation, but he has now cleared the air about what was really going on. He also used the opportunity to raise awareness about addiction stigma and how it can prevent people from getting the help they need.


  1. What did Ben Affleck whisper to Jennifer Lopez at the Grammys?
  • Affleck leaned in and told his wife that he planned to slide away from her and leave her sitting next to Trevor Noah, but she told him not to.
  1. Is Ben Affleck a fan of Dunkin' Donuts?
  • Yes, he is frequently spotted at the coffee chain and even starred in a Super Bowl ad for the company.
  1. Does Ben Affleck keep up with the latest music trends?
  • No,